The audience that I have in mind while writing this post is anyone who might be interested in reading this. So, he or she might advocate same-sex marriage, disagree with it, or is just neutral about it. I also felt the need to qualify that I do not have homosexuals in mind while writing this blog post. I think it’s legit to ask me what triggered me to write this post. The cause was the news that said that Ireland has now legalized same-sex marriage. Thus, my purpose in writing this blog is to address the cause that triggered it. My goal in mind is to try to clearly present to you God’s definition and His design for marriage because it matters to Him. Thus, it should also matter to us.
Let me first lay out what I think readers might think of me in writing this blog post. The reader might think that I’m a bigot for the reason that he or she might think that I don’t advocate human rights or gender equality in this post. You might think that I am intolerant, unloving, disrespectful, fanatical, prideful, close-minded, arrogant, crazy, foolish, and anything you want to think of me BUT I DON’T CARE. I should speak out the truth in the most loving way as I can even though others might say that I’m still unloving. I hope you’ll just ascribe it to my love to you.
Like any one of us, I also deeply desire that all people be loved, respected and treated with equal dignity BUT equality doesn’t give us the right to do the things that we do not have the right to do. I know that there are readers who might be offended because of this blog post but it just really breaks my heart when we think that we have the right to re-define and re-design God’s definition and design for marriage. I’m compelled to let this out. God is eternal. Thus, it follows that His definition and design for marriage is also eternal. How can something eternal change within time? Kindly explain to me how it is possible. What I’m trying to say is, since, God had already defined marriage before the creation of the world, how then can it change within the space-time continuum? Changing the definition of marriage is a gross insult to the immutability of God. God does not change because He is timeless. His will and divine purpose are not constrained by time. It never changes simply because it reflects His unchanging character. In His perfect wisdom, God predetermined things according to the eternal purpose of His divine plan for His good pleasure. The end of which is for God to be glorified. Let us always remember that God is a jealous God. He doesn’t share His glory to others. In the next paragraph, I’ll try to briefly state why believing in a Creator is reasonable because of the overwhelming evidences that point to it. A life-time of study would never be enough to comprehend God because He’s infinite and our minds are finite.
Can you imagine great works of art that do not have its own respective artists? Can you imagine Mona Lisa without Leonardo Da Vinci? Apparently, there should be an artist for every art work, an architect for every blueprint, and an engineer for every building. Common sense dictates that creation infers a Creator. Who then has the solitary right to give meaning to the art work? The observer? or the Artist? It’s the Artist of course. This is just too obvious to overlook. Is it not? Furthermore, theological, historical, moral, and scientific evidences also point that there is a Creator – Kalam cosmological argument, Teleological argument, Fine-tuning of physical constants, objective moral laws point to an objective Lawgiver, conscience, Bible, deity of Christ, experiential argument, and many more. I’d really be glad to expound on the arguments that I’ve cited but due to time constraint, kindly allow me to defer it in my succeeding blog posts. If the arguments that I’ve cited caused you to be interested regarding the arguments for God’s existence then I’d be glad to suggest to you to watch at least five debates of Dr. William Lane Craig with notable atheists (E.g. Christopher Hitchens). Fortunately, these debates are available in you tube. I personally think that he’s the leading Christian apologist for the existence of God. I want you to be the judge. Try to listen to his debates.
That being said, I DISAGREE with SAME SEX MARRIAGE because OBJECTIVE EVIDENCES are against it not just because I FEEL LIKE IT. If all claims are equally true. Why then are you not accepting my claim? Or even just considering it? See how self-refuting relativism is. We live in a relativistic culture where all truth claims are accepted as equally valid EXCEPT the absolute truths of Christianity. There’s an absolute standard of right and wrong because God exist and that standard is a reflection of His eternal and holy character. Whether you agree with me or not, there’s still an absolute reality. Like the fact that you are reading my post. It’s funny but it’s true.
I felt the need to let this out because it just grieves my soul. It just really saddens me when we use the mind that God has given us to mock Him and insult Him. When we think that we are wiser than Him. How dare us think that we’re better gods than the eternal, holy, and living God? I beg you. Let us not think highly of ourselves. We’re just mere humans. And God created us for His own sole purpose not ours. I hope that its crystal clear to you.
In the succeeding paragraphs, I’ll just lay out one argument against same-sex marriage. Needless to say, the best argument against same-sex marriage is Christ’s redemptive work on the cross. Why did I say that? As I’ve stated earlier, God designed marriage for His eternal purpose. What is that purpose? The purpose of marriage is for it to be a picture of Christ’s love for His bride – the church. Marriage is the majestic symbol of the abounding love of what Christ has done to redeem His bride at the cross because of sin. Needless to say, the root cause of all evil in this world is SIN. No matter how hard we try, we wouldn’t be able to get rid of all the of the evil in this world (e.g. murder, immorality, and the like).
I hope you’re still with me.
We wouldn’t understand Christ’s love for us if we wouldn’t delve into the issue of sin. We inherited the fallen nature of our forefather Adam because he sinned against God by not doing what God commanded him to do. Kindly view this in light of the doctrine of Federal Headship – because you might think that it was Eve who was tempted by the serpent. Having this in mind, you might ask me then I said that Adam is the one who sinned when it was Eve who was tempted. Going back to my point, THAT’S HOW HOLY GOD IS. He couldn’t tolerate sin EVEN IF IT’S JUST A SINGLE ACT OF DISOBEDIENCE. Because of sin, we are now dead with respect to spiritual things. (Eph 2:1) It just prompts me to ask my favorite question. What can a dead man do? Try to pause and remember the sins that you’ve done in your life and realize that we are utterly sinful. Are we not?
A dead man cannot hear, think, understand, and desire for God. Sin permeates our whole being. It has corrupted our mind, will, soul, and body (Rom 8:5 – 8). Don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to say that we are not able to do good. What I’m trying to say is WE ARE UNABLE TO PLEASE GOD. And that’s how utterly depraved we are and that’s how holy God is.
These then are the biggest questions regarding salvation. How is it possible for unrighteous men to be reconciled to a righteous God? How can God be just and at the same be a justifier of wicked men? You might say that God is loving. You might think that He will pardon me when I ask for forgiveness for my sins because He loves me. Try that to court. A just judge will punish you unless he’s corrupt. God is not corrupt. Is He? Of course not. I hope that you see our need for redemption from our sins.
It is only then through the God-man Jesus Christ in His redemptive work at the cross that might be reconciled to God. At the cross, Christ reconciled His unholy bride with the Holy God. He’s 100% God and He’s 100% man. That’s why He’s like the bridge between man and God. A Savior who is not fully God couldn’t save us.
Can you imagine the love of Christ for His church? He is God but He became a mere man (but He did not cease to be God – I know this infinite truth boggles your finite mind) to suffer and die at the cross to redeem His bride with His blood. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mean to say that we cannot know God. God has revealed Himself through His Word and He wouldn’t reveal Himself when we cannot know Him. It’s like saying God made an incorrect decision to reveal Himself because men cannot know Him because He is God. I just meant that we cannot fully grasp a Being who is greater than us.
CHRIST WAS BUTCHERED AT THE CROSS. He was mocked, spat upon, pierced, flogged by Roman centurions, crucified and rejected. God the Father poured out His righteous anger against sin to His Son at the cross. Christ tasted hell in behalf of us. At the cross, Christ bore our sins. An innocent man TOOK our punishment. HE DIED THE DEATH THAT WE SHOULD HAVE DIED AND LIVED THE LIFE THAT WE SHOULD HAVE LIVED. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (2 Cor 5:21) The worst of us was laid on Him and the best of Him was laid to His bride – the church. This is the great exchange that is done at the cross. In the third day, Christ rose again proving that He’s the Son of God. The resurrection of Christ is really significant because if Christ did not resurrect we’re still dead in our sins – past, present and future. (1 Cor 15:17) Conversely, since Christ resurrected, those who come to Him by faith are not dead anymore with respect to their sins. They’re now spiritually alive in union with Christ. In the eyes of God, we are holy and blameless because of the holy and blameless sacrifice of God the Son – Jesus Christ. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to say that Christians cannot sin but rather Christians wouldn’t be controlled by sin. Christians should also manifest the fruits (Gal. 5:22 – 23) of the Spirit. You also might wonder why Christians confidently claim that they are SAVED. You might think that they’re arrogant or even self-righteous in these kind of assertions. That’s also the very thoughts that I had toward Christians before I became like them. The reason for this is God the Holy Spirit is the One who works within us to assure us of our salvation. Don’t get me wrong. There are also Christians who profess Christ but do not possess Christ. Ergo, discernment is a must in this regard.
Do you understand how great Christ’s love for His bride? Because of that love, the perfect union and fellowship of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit was severed within time because Christ bore our sins in His body at the cross. This was done because of His abounding love for us. HE ENDURED ALL KINDS OF SUFFERING TO SAVE HIS BRIDE FROM THE PITS OF HELL. God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. (Rom 5:21)
AND His love for me is what fuels me to write this post because it just breaks my heart to see people distort God’s design for marriage. The reason why we re-define marriage is because we never truly understood the love of Christ for sinners, the problem of sin, the need of reconciliation with God and the redemptive work of Christ at the cross.
The greatest gift that God has given us is the gift of eternal life which is freely given to those who come to Christ by faith alone. We should repent and believe in Christ. We should turn away from vanity, self-righteousness, pride, arrogance, lust, immorality, anger, idolatry, blasphemy, licentiousness, dishonoring our parents, lying, stealing, greed, slander, drunkenness, covetousness, adultery, promiscuity, hypocrisy and religion and throw ourselves to Christ. Ask God. Seek Him with as if your life depends on it. BECAUSE it really is. Say, “I’m a great sinner. You are a great Savior. I’m a hell-bound sinner. Have mercy on me. Save me Jesus from the pits of hell. Give me eyes to see You as you really are, heart that desires for You, ears that listen to Your voice and a mind that understand You for I am unable to do it. I want to commit my life to You. Have mercy on me a sinner.”
Soli Deo Gloria.